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Saturday, August 25, 2012

30 Things in 30 Days.... About Me!

(I first came across this challenge on Six Cherries on Top, who linked up with Best of Both Worlds, who originally got the list/inspiration from Hopes and Dreams.) 

This is the last post to complete this challenge. I don't know if anyone reads these since no one comments on them, but it was still fun to ask myself these questions and really consider the answer.

1. List 20 random facts about yourself.
2. Describe 3 legitimate fears you have and explain how they became fears.
3. Describe your relationship with your parents.
4. List 10 things you would tell your 16 year-old self, if you could.
5. What are the 5 things that make you most happy right now?
6. What is the hardest thing you have ever experienced?
7. What is your dream job, and why?
8. What are 5 passions you have?
9. List 10 people who have influenced you and describe how.
10. Describe your most embarrassing moment.
11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.
12. Describe a typical day in your current life.
13. Describe 5 weaknesses you have.
14. Describe 5 strengths you have.
15. If you were an animal, what would you be and why?
16. What are your 5 greatest accomplishments?
17. What is the thing you most wish you were great at?
18. What has been the most difficult thing you have had to forgive?
19. If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?
20. Describe 3 significant memories from your childhood.
21. If you could have one superpower, what would it be and what would you do with it first?
22. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?
23. List your top 5 hobbies and why you love them.
24. Describe your family dynamic of your childhood vs. your family dynamic now.
25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
26. What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?
27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?
28. What is your love language?
29. What do you think people misunderstand most about you?
30. List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for


19. If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?
If money wasn't an issue I would have a hard time deciding between somewhere in Colorado, on 5ish acres with beautiful Coloradoan views, or in California. If we lived in California I'd live in Northern California. Thing is, I love love love Colorado but I miss being within a few hours drive of the ocean. I totally took the ocean for granted when we lived in Las Vegas and it was only 4 hours away, but I miss it so so so much now.

20. Describe 3 significant memories from your childhood.  I don't know if these are significant, but they replay in my mind quite often...
 1. I remember getting violently ill after a surgery. (I don't remember if it was my tonsils/adenoids or my sinus surgery. But I remember violently throwing up in the bushes on the way to the car post surgery. I was in the 3-4yo range. I think that's my first memory. Nice.
2.  I remember sitting in front of our home in Orlando, everything packed into the U-Haul truck, and being really nervous about our move. I kept telling my mom I had to use the bathroom, but when I'd go back inside the house for the umpteenth time to pee and nothing would come out it was obvious I was just nervous. This was the move when I was 7 where we moved from Orlando, FL to Las Vegas, NV.
3. I remember my friend Jes's mom, Cindy, teaching me how to swallow medicine in pill form. I was staying at her house for a week-ish while my mom went out of town, I had a headache, needed to take a Tylenol-type medicine, but they only had pills. I was so scared about taking a pill. She filled up a big plastic Florida Gators tumbler with water, did the same for Jes, set them on the counter in front of us. Had me put the pill on my tongue and had me and Jes race to chug the water cups. I don't remember if I won or lost, but I remember being surprised that the pill was gone at the end of it.

21. If you could have one superpower, what would it be and what would you do with it first?
Not having to sleep. Kiiiiiiinda like the Twilight vampires. Except, I don't want to not be able to sleep, because I love sleeping. But I'd like to not HAVE to. There are some days that 15-18ish awake hours in the day just aren't enough to get everything I need to get done, done.
 
22. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?
Now that I have Bean I don't even like thinking to the future. Time goes by so fast normally, I don't like to imagine her being 7, 12 or 17 years old. However, in 5 years I'd like our family to be in a home of our own. In ten years I'd like to be either finishing up my schooling or already working in the labor/breastfeeding support world. In 15 years I'd like to be sitting at the kitchen table helping Bean Girl (who surely won't let me call her that anymore) fill out college applications. ::sniff::

23. List your top 5 hobbies and why you love them.
1. Photography - Well shot photographs can take my breath away. There are many memories I'd like to never forget. Photography helps make that a reality.
2. Sewing - I like making sock monsters. And handmade gifts for friends.
3. Baking - I have a crazy sweet tooth. I like to be able to make delish treats to share and to indulge in!
4. Crafting - I've always been pretty creative. I just like the relaxation of crafting.
5. Reading - I love love love reading. I love that I can go anywhere in my imagination and immerse myself in the story.

24. Describe your family dynamic of your childhood vs. your family dynamic now.
I was raised by a single mother. That never changed, as in - she didn't marry when I was a child. I am an only child (I have two siblings thanks to my father, but they're 18-19 years older than me, so I never grew up with them in my life.) I'm married, and while Bean is currently an only child we'd like to eventually give her a sibling. So, it'll be very different than how I grew up.

25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
Because the question says, "in history" I feel like I should pick a really important dead person. The guy who discovered penicillin or first lady to pilot an airplane. But, really, if I could have a dinner party with anyone I wanted I'd want these people there:

Rosie O'Donnell
Alanis Morissette
Robin Williams
Julia Roberts
Brandon Boyd
Pink, and,
Ina May Gaskin

26. What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?
That infants are manipulative. I do not, will not, believe that if you carry/hold a baby too much that they'll be spoiled. Or that if you refuse to let them 'cry it out' that they'll never learn to soothe themselves. Babies don't understand the concept of 'tricking' people. They don't understand what your reasons are. They just know that they need/want you. And, really? Before you know it they're grown and don't want to be held... so I'm gonna keep holding babies as much as I can. ♥

27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?
My hair color. I used to hate it, but I love it now. I've come to appreciate it just in time for it to start turning grey enough that I HAVE to start coloring it, which makes me sad because I'll never be able to get a color to be exactly like my natural color.

28. What is your love language?
Words of Affirmation and Quality Time were tied for #1 after I took the Quiz to Learn my Love Language

29. What do you think people misunderstand most about you?
They mistake my passion for things for judgement toward them if they're not passionate about the same things. I realize that everyone has their own path in life. Moms, especially, are all making choices that they feel are best. Just because it's different than what I do doesn't mean that I think you're wrong. I hate mommy-wars. If you want to ask my advice, and then follow suit that's awesome! But, if you don't - that's cool too!

30. List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for.
1. That I was caring.
2. That I treated people with love and compassion.
3. That I was selfless.
4. That I was a good daughter.
5. " " friend.
6. " " wife.
7. " " mother.
8. That I was forgiving.
9. That I was honest.
10.  That I was a good person.


Best of Both Worlds

Thursday, August 16, 2012

30 Things in 30 Days.... About Me!

(I first came across this challenge on Six Cherries on Top, who linked up with Best of Both Worlds, who originally got the list/inspiration from Hopes and Dreams.) 

1. List 20 random facts about yourself.
2. Describe 3 legitimate fears you have and explain how they became fears.
3. Describe your relationship with your parents.
4. List 10 things you would tell your 16 year-old self, if you could.
5. What are the 5 things that make you most happy right now?
6. What is the hardest thing you have ever experienced?
7. What is your dream job, and why?
8. What are 5 passions you have?
9. List 10 people who have influenced you and describe how.
10. Describe your most embarrassing moment.
11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.
12. Describe a typical day in your current life.
13. Describe 5 weaknesses you have.
14. Describe 5 strengths you have.
15. If you were an animal, what would you be and why?
16. What are your 5 greatest accomplishments?
17. What is the thing you most wish you were great at?
18. What has been the most difficult thing you have had to forgive?

19. If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?
20. Describe 3 significant memories from your childhood.
21. If you could have one superpower, what would it be and what would you do with it first?
22. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?
23. List your top 5 hobbies and why you love them.
24. Describe your family dynamic of your childhood vs. your family dynamic now.
25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
26. What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?
27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?
28. What is your love language?
29. What do you think people misunderstand most about you?
30. List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for.

12. Describe a typical day in your current life. 
7:15 Wake up
7:30 Emily gets dropped off
8:00 Bean wakes up
8:30 Breakfast
9:00 Errands/Play at the park/library/Bean's room
12:00 Lunch
1:00 Naptime
3:00 Wake up/Snack/Play
3:45-4:30 (depending on the day) Emily gets picked up
5:00 Start prepping dinner
5:30 Cook dinner
6:00 Eat dinner
7:00 Family time
7:30 Bathtime
7:45 PJs/Storytime/Bottle
8:00 Bedtime
8:30 Pick up the house/Finish 'chores' that didn't get done in the day
10:00 Jeff goes to bed, I get on the computer
11:30-12:00 Get ready for bed, lay down, watch TV
12:00-2:00 (depending on how tired/stressed I am) Fall asleep.
This is for M-F, on the weekends it's all the same except I sleep until Bean wakes me up sometime after 8am.

13. Describe 5 weaknesses you have. 
1. I care too much about my friends and family. To the point where I give myself perpetual stomach aches and stress over their lives.
2. I'm insecure. I'm always worried about if people like me, what they're saying about me, what they really think about me, etc.
3. I'm a worry-wort. I think about the what-ifs too much.
4. I'm a control freak. Not always having to make the decisions, etc... but more about stuff I have NO control over. It keeps me up at night wishing I could make something happen, or change something, when it's completely out of my control.
5. I'm sensitive. My feelings get hurt easily. Unfortunately over the years I've stopped coming across as hurt and emotional and now come across as confrontational and angry when someone hurts my feelings. I need to work on it.

14. Describe 5 strengths you have. 
1. I'm loving. If I love you my love for you is fierce. Once you're in my heart it takes a LOT for me to stop caring about you.
2. I'm dependable. If you need me, I'll do everything in my power to be there for you.
3. I'm creative and resourceful. I can make a fun time out of nothing - so long as whoever I'm with allows me to do it and doesn't rain on the parade.
4. I'm sensitive. I know it's in my negative list, but because I'm sensitive I usually root for the underdog and try to find the best in people/silver lining in crappy situations. People sometimes get frustrated at me for this, "Why are you defending him?? Just be pissed with me!!" But I'm sure that underdog appreciates SOMEONE being on their side.
5. I'm protective. If, however, that underdog turns out to actually just be a dog and treating someone I love poorly - repeatedly - I will turn on them in an instant.

15. If you were an animal, what would you be and why? 
A house cat (in a loving home). Their life is lived on their terms, their family love them for their quirks, they leave them be, but when they come around their humans love all over them. They get to gaze outside, nap in the sunlight, sleep 18-20 hours a day, and they're so pretty! ♥

 16. What are your 5 greatest accomplishments? 
1. My daughter
2. My marriage
3. My 2 college degrees. Even if they don't mean much to the real world they mean something to me.
4.
5.

17. What is the thing you most wish you were great at? 
Being the best mom to Bean that I can. There are days that I feel I rocked at being a Mom, and there are days where I go to bed feeling like I could have/should have done a hundred things differently.

18. What has been the most difficult thing you have had to forgive? 
My father's absence. I don't know if I ever forgave him, but I finally accepted it for what it is and let it go. It still irritates me, but I don't have an emotional breakdown when I think about it anymore. I used to take it personally, like he wasn't around because he didn't love me, but I know that he wasn't around because he was an irresponsible, addict, fool of a man. I'm better off with him NOT being in my life. I'm thankful he's not in Bean's either.




Best of Both Worlds

Saturday, August 11, 2012

30 Things in 30 Days... About Me!

(I first came across this challenge on Six Cherries on Top, who linked up with Best of Both Worlds, who originally got the list/inspiration from Hopes and Dreams.)


1. List 20 random facts about yourself.
2. Describe 3 legitimate fears you have and explain how they became fears.
3. Describe your relationship with your parents.
4. List 10 things you would tell your 16 year-old self, if you could.
5. What are the 5 things that make you most happy right now?
6. What is the hardest thing you have ever experienced?
7. What is your dream job, and why?
8. What are 5 passions you have?
9. List 10 people who have influenced you and describe how.
10. Describe your most embarrassing moment.
11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.
12. Describe a typical day in your current life.
13. Describe 5 weaknesses you have.
14. Describe 5 strengths you have.
15. If you were an animal, what would you be and why?
16. What are your 5 greatest accomplishments?
17. What is the thing you most wish you were great at?
18. What has been the most difficult thing you have had to forgive?
19. If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?
20. Describe 3 significant memories from your childhood.
21. If you could have one superpower, what would it be and what would you do with it first?
22. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?
23. List your top 5 hobbies and why you love them.
24. Describe your family dynamic of your childhood vs. your family dynamic now.
25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
26. What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?
27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?
28. What is your love language?
29. What do you think people misunderstand most about you?
30. List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for

5. What are the 5 things that make you most happy right now?

1. Bean has started singing along to songs, the best she can anyway. And it's so cute to be driving in the car, or cooking dinner, listening to music and have her sing, "Oh, oh, oh!" or clap at the right parts. She dances along, and pumps her fist - usually with the beat, too! Cracks me up. Cute girl.
2. Iced tea. Just normal bagged tea, brewed hot and then poured over ice. Love it so much in the summer.
3. The temps have been in the 80s again instead of the high 90-100s. Going outside doesn't make me want to murder people anymore.
4. Summer produce. Melons and squash. Berries and peaches! Mmmmmm!
5. Every night when I open the windows when I go to bed I'm reminded how lucky I am to live somewhere where it cools down to the low 60s every night in the summer. I love sleeping with the windows open.

6. What is the hardest thing you've ever experienced? 
I think, honestly, it'd have to be my c-section/postpartum period. I was planning a natural birth, it didn't happen. I had a c-section. Due to severe sensitivities to pain meds all I could take after the surgery was 800mg Motrin. I've never felt pain like that before in my life. Breastfeeding was a complete nightmare for 12 weeks. I thought I was fine at the time, but looking back now 2 years out of the gate, I most definitely struggled with postpartum depression and was pretty much just surviving day to day.

7. What is your dream job, and why?
I would love to be a lactation consultant and a labor doula. I feel so passionate about breastfeeding and childbirth - that every woman should be able to have the experience that THEY want to have - and would love to help them achieve that. So many women feel bullied by their Drs, family, friends, etc to have a birth that fits a certain 'mold' and then end up regretting things. I would really love to help women make educated choices and support them if they need help or reassurance.

8. What are 5 passions you have?
1. Breastfeeding/Childbirth (as stated ^above)
2. Eating a vegetarian diet. Not contributing the the animal abuse that has become our food industry.
3. Photography, even though my talent pales in comparison to so many other photogs out there.
4. Family. Specifically my little family unit. Jeff and Bean are my world.
5. Reading. I love to read.

9. List 10 people who have influenced you and describe how.
(in no particular order)
1. My mother. Duh.
2. My grandparents. My grandpa was the larger-than-life male figure in my life, and my grandma and I shared a special relationship as well.
3. My first best friend, Jes, and her moms. Jes was my saving grace when my mom dropped me off at summer-day-camp at 6 years old and I melted down. She hugged me and we were fast friends. I'm thankful that through FB I've reconnected with her. She's a beautiful, talented, actress living the dream in NYC. Her moms were the first in a long line of friends in my life living the GLBT "lifestyle". I'm so grateful that I was surrounded with all different variations of 'normal' when I was young, it - no doubt - made me who I am today with regard to how I deal with non-traditional situations.
4. My friend Nina. I didn't realize it when we were in middle and high school, but her friendship has taught me a lot about being there for someone, and a lot about forgiveness.
5. Lurlene McDaniel. She's an author who writes young adult novels. Her books taught me a lot about myself. I was constantly reading her books from ages 9-16.
6. My lactation consultant Tiffanie. If it weren't for her there would have been no way that I would have succeeded in giving my daughter breastmilk for one-day-shy-of 17 months. She saw me at some of my lowest points and calmly helped me through them. She was/is a constant sources of strength and knowledge to me.
7. My lactation consultant Stacey. (see above, ditto.)
8. Jeff. My best friend. My love. I don't know how I got so lucky.
9. My cat, Whitney, and my dog, Daisy. My childhood pets. They might as well have been my siblings. They really taught me how to be responsible for someone else, and to love unconditionally.
10. Madeline Jo Bean. I thought I knew what it meant to 'love' before her, but what I feel for her cannot be described. The minute she came into my life I was transformed. There is a quote, "The decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body." ~Elizabeth Stone And I feel that it describes motherhood the best that I've found. The minute I became a mother I could not fathom my life without her in it. It is the most terrifying, and most gratifying thing, I've ever done.

10. Describe your most embarrassing moment.
I know I've had a lot of them, but there isn't one sticking out in my memory as being THE MOST embarrassing. I guess one of them was when I had my first kiss. I wasn't expecting it. I was walking behind my boyfriend, smiling while we were talking, and he abruptly turned around and kissed me. Except we clunked our teeth together really hard. I don't know if that should have been his embarrassing moment or mine, but I remember feeling mortified that I made such a rookie mistake.

11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.
1. Words pronounced incorrectly. Suposably. "Let me axe you a question." Irregardless. Towards. etc.
2. Lip smacking.
3. When people take for-ev-er to get their thought out. "T-t-t-today Junior!!" (That was a joke. If someone has an actual speech impediment it doesn't bother me!)
4. There/their/they're, its/it's, your/you're and seen/saw I'm positive we learned the difference between those words in grade school and yet, people who graduated high school can't seem to get them straight.
5. Nail clippings being left around the house.
6. The toilet paper being put on the holder the 'wrong' way. Yes, I understand that there is not actually a right/wrong way to unroll your toilet paper, but I like the sheet to lay on TOP of the roll, not to fall behind it. It drives me BANANAS. I've been known to change the direction the TP rolls in friends/family member's houses.
7. One-uppers. You're telling them about your hospital experience and before you finish their sentence they're telling you about the time they almost DIED in the ER last year. You tell them how proud you are that you got that promotion and they're telling you about the FABULOUS job offer they just turned down because it wasn't good enough. You're telling them that your major complaint with your home is your small kitchen and they assure you that it's bigger than THEIRS is, so you should just be thankful. SHUDDUP!!!! It's one thing to relate and commiserate, it's another to be a constant one-upper.
8. Chewing with your mouth open.
9. Talking to people who aren't listening. ESPECIALLY if they called me. You called me, you asked me about something, I'm in the middle of telling you about something, and it's OBVIOUS you're not paying attention. Why am I wasting my time? Why did you call me?
10. Dirty clothes left on the floor 3" away from the dirty clothes hamper.

Best of Both Worlds

Saturday, August 4, 2012

30 Things in 30 Days... About Me!

I tried doing one of these link-up memes before, but I just couldn't/wouldn't/didn't keep up with it every day. Knowing myself, I wouldn't keep up with this one if I had to do it daily, either. So, instead, I'll post my answers on the weekends. So, today's entry will answer 4 of the questions. Next week's will answer 7. I should be able to do this once a week... here we go!

(I first came across this challenge on Six Cherries on Top, who linked up with Best of Both Worlds, who originally got the list/inspiration from Hopes and Dreams.)

1. List 20 random facts about yourself.
2. Describe 3 legitimate fears you have and explain how they became fears.
3. Describe your relationship with your parents.
4. List 10 things you would tell your 16 year-old self, if you could.

5. What are the 5 things that make you most happy right now?
6. What is the hardest thing you have ever experienced?
7. What is your dream job, and why?
8. What are 5 passions you have?
9. List 10 people who have influenced you and describe how.
10. Describe your most embarrassing moment.
11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.
12. Describe a typical day in your current life.
13. Describe 5 weaknesses you have.
14. Describe 5 strengths you have.
15. If you were an animal, what would you be and why?
16. What are your 5 greatest accomplishments?
17. What is the thing you most wish you were great at?
18. What has been the most difficult thing you have had to forgive?
19. If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?
20. Describe 3 significant memories from your childhood.
21. If you could have one superpower, what would it be and what would you do with it first?
22. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?
23. List your top 5 hobbies and why you love them.
24. Describe your family dynamic of your childhood vs. your family dynamic now.
25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
26. What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?
27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?
28. What is your love language?
29. What do you think people misunderstand most about you?
30. List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for

1. List 20 random facts about yourself. 
1. I just turned 27
2. I'm a 'Cancer', and yes I really do think that somehow I am driven by that sign.
3. I worked at Starbucks when I was in college. I loved it, but I don't like coffee.
4. I'm a vegetarian who eats vegan as much as possible.
5. I do miss pepperoni pizza though.
6. I love TV. Some of my fave shows are: Gilmore Girls, SATC, Castle, Game of Thrones, SYTYCD
7. I'm crafty.
8. I have 3.5 tattoos. "3.5? How can you have .5 a tattoo?" I've had 4 tattoos tattooed on my body, but the 4th one covered up the 3rd one, so when you look at me you still only see 3.
9. I want to eventually go back to college to become an IBCLC.
10. I'm a SAHM and love it. It was something I always wanted, but didn't know if it'd happen for me.
11. I didn't get my ears pierced, for reals, until I was 19. I had gotten them done when I was 7, but they closed up. Then I got the top, cartilage part pierced when I was 16, but I let that close up when I was 21. Most of my friends got many different body parts pierced in high school but I just couldn't since I hate needles. "But... you have 3.5 tattoos!!" Yes, but tattoo guns don't look like big, scary, needles coming straight for me.
12. I moved across the country 4 times before 3rd grade, and then didn't move to another state until I was 25.
13. My daughter is a 'Leo' and that terrifies me. Every friend/co-worker/boss that I've had that was a Leo didn't end well. We always started out BFFs, but before long it imploded. 
14. I love to take photos but am clueless on the whole fancy-editing-in-Photoshop front.
15. I have two associate degrees. Too bad they don't magically add up to a bachelors degree. Associates degrees are pretty much useless. 
16. I got married at Walt Disney World.
17. Incubus is all my all time favorite band. I don't care if Jeff makes fun of me for it.
18. I love to sleep with the covers (sheet and comforter, plus blanket in the winter) up to my chin. In the summer I get frustrated and don't sleep well when I can't do that. 
19. I have a horrrrrrrrible sweet tooth. If there are sweets in the house I cannot rest until they're all gone. 
20. I'm terrified of roller coasters.

2. Describe 3 legitimate fears you have and explain how they became fears.
1. Speaking/Performing in front of people. IDK why it's so bad for me but I can't get up in front of a group of people - even if I know them - and talk without turning bright red, shaking, sweating, rocking back and forth on the balls of my feet, 'um'ing 100 times, and practically whispering - while my voice is shaking - so it's pretty much impossible to hear me.
2. The ocean. I LOVE the ocean. It's quite possibly my favorite place/thing. (Not sure if it should be a place or a thing, since I've been in different oceans on different coasts and I love them all.) But, I watch Discovery Channel, I know all about what is in the ocean, and all about the fact that we have NO idea what else is in the ocean that hasn't been discovered yet. I took Marine Biology in school, I know all about how it's the most vast environment on Earth, and yet we know the least about it. AND, I swear I almost drowned once when I was about rib-deep and was playing in the waves when all of a sudden the sand completely slipped out from under my feet. I was underwater, clawing at the sand, trying to dig my way back to the surface while the waves just kept crashing on top of me over and over. When I finally emerged I immediately got back onto the beach and haven't gone deeper than my knees since.
3. Domestic violence situations. Yelling, shoving, etc. It makes me really uncomfortable/shaky even just hearing someone in another apartment/aisle/street/car/etc being yelled at. My first boyfriend was a major douche bag.... 'nuff said.

3. Describe your relationship with your parents.
I don't have a relationship with my dad. My mom left him when I was less than a year old, and he chose to not have any sort of relationship with me. He doesn't have one with my two older siblings - from a previous marriage - either, so it's kind of his M.O.

My mom raised me as a single mother. She gave up everything to be the best mother she could for me. Unfortunately for her, she got a very emotional daughter. My mom isn't real good with emotion, it makes her uncomfortable - though she's better now than she was when I was in middle school. (Isn't almost everyone who was born in the 50s weird when it comes to dealing with emotion? The 50s were the era of, "Don't talk about it, just shove it aside!" And I needed to talk about stuff right then and there, much to my mom's dismay.) We fought a LOT from the time I turned 12-13 until I was about 21. So, I'm sure that sucked for her. It sucked for me, too. We're better now. I enjoy spending time with her. I enjoy watching her be Mimi to my daughter. I enjoy talking to her on the phone. She's become more of a friend - something I thought would NEVER happen after hearing, "I'm not your friend, I'm your MOTHER!" about 400 times growing up - but I'm glad our relationship has morphed into what it has. Now that I'm a mother I really do recognize and appreciate all the sacrifices she made for me, and I'm so grateful for her being my mom.

4. List 10 things you would tell your 16 year-old self, if you could.

1. Don't date him. He's an abusive asshole. 
2. You can't change your friends, no matter how much you worry about them. Let them make mistakes, be there for them when they come to you, don't be so judgmental. 
3. Stop comparing your appearance to other girls.
4. Step outside of your comfort zone more often.
5. DO YOUR HOMEWORK! (Instead, I had to bust my ass my senior year to bring my grades up when all my friends got to take it easy with only 4 or 5 classes instead of 6.)
6. If you don't want your mom to think the worst of you and your behavior, stop doing the same with her.
7. Don't give his absence so much power over your confidence when it comes to guys. 
8. When you do fight with your friends don't go for the low blows. You'll want these people in your life after high school and they'll never forget the things you said to them.
9. Don't ever leave the house wearing socks with sandals. (I know, it was only one time, but that was one time too many!)
10. Love yourself more. 


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