tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931264992206061160.post91840712437399313..comments2023-05-20T02:14:31.266-06:00Comments on Bean and Bug: Such a strong personality!Nicolehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03787546924066702065noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931264992206061160.post-21008488061708962242011-10-17T20:52:31.851-06:002011-10-17T20:52:31.851-06:00My best piece of advice would be that instead of s...My best piece of advice would be that instead of saying things like "no, we don't hit" change it up and say "we are gentle with our hands." Turn the negative to a positive. Toddlers have a hard time with negation. They hear the word HIT. They also hear NO, but they don't really get how that negates it. Does that make sense? If they are hearing the positive words "gentle", that's what they will process. Also, that tells them what they CAN do. So while you are telling her she can't hit, she may not know what TO do instead. :)Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10846901059951833219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931264992206061160.post-19246731211904419592011-10-17T19:59:24.223-06:002011-10-17T19:59:24.223-06:00Oh Maddy Jo. Be nice to your mama. You know I have...Oh Maddy Jo. Be nice to your mama. You know I have been through this as well. These hulk babies man, they have their own style. It sounds like you are doing all the right things though sweetie.<br /><br />Consistency is key. Thing about strong willed children is that you can't ever let it slide. Not even kind of. The good news is, once they learn something isn't working, they move on.<br /><br />Try reading her some kids books about anger management. Sounds corny but seriously, she understands way more than you think. The "Llama, llama" series is great but there are a ton out there. Its helped us a ton to have a little quiet time and read those books when he gets all worked up and starts toddler raging.<br /><br />As for the screaming, just ignore it. Seriously. Tell her "no screaming. when you can settle down we will talk about ___ and why you are upset." and then walk away. Its so hard (especially in an apartment) but the more you feed into the screaming, the louder it will get.<br /><br />*hugs* my dear lady friend. It will get better. I have told you before, the only way I stay sane and madly in love with these boys is to find the humor in the crazy.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02642899468619200352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931264992206061160.post-86003754317818780122011-10-17T19:58:41.476-06:002011-10-17T19:58:41.476-06:00Oh Maddy Jo. Be nice to your mama. You know I have...Oh Maddy Jo. Be nice to your mama. You know I have been through this as well. These hulk babies man, they have their own style. It sounds like you are doing all the right things though sweetie. <br /><br />Consistency is key. Thing about strong willed children is that you can't ever let it slide. Not even kind of. The good news is, once they learn something isn't working, they move on. <br /><br />Try reading her some kids books about anger management. Sounds corny but seriously, she understands way more than you think. The "Llama, llama" series is great but there are a ton out there. Its helped us a ton to have a little quiet time and read those books when he gets all worked up and starts toddler raging. <br /><br />As for the screaming, just ignore it. Seriously. Tell her "no screaming. when you can settle down we will talk about ___ and why you are upset." and then walk away. Its so hard (especially in an apartment) but the more you feed into the screaming, the louder it will get. <br /><br />*hugs* my dear lady friend. It will get better. I have told you before, the only way I stay sane and madly in love with these boys is to find the humor in the crazy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com